Leading a small group at a church can be a fulfilling and rewarding experience for both the leader and members of the group. However, small group leaders are not immune to making mistakes, and some mistakes can have significant consequences. In this paper, we will discuss some of the biggest mistakes a small group leader can make at a church.
Mistake #1: Not Prioritizing Relationship Building One of the primary purposes of small groups is to build relationships with other believers. A small group leader who fails to prioritize relationship building is missing the point of the group. When relationships are not fostered and nurtured, members may feel disconnected and may eventually stop attending the group. A small group leader must take the time to get to know each member, listen to their concerns and struggles, and create a welcoming and safe environment where members can share openly.
Mistake #2: Being Overly Controlling A small group leader who micromanages the group and insists on controlling every aspect of the group’s activities can stifle creativity and growth. Members may feel like they have no ownership of the group and may be less likely to contribute their ideas and talents. A small group leader must learn to delegate responsibilities and trust the members of the group to take ownership of their roles.
Mistake #3: Not Allowing for Diversity Small groups should be a place where people from different backgrounds and experiences can come together to learn and grow in their faith. A small group leader who does not allow for diversity may unintentionally create an exclusive group that excludes others. A small group leader must be intentional about creating an environment where everyone feels welcome and included, regardless of their background or experience.
Mistake #4: Failing to Follow Up Following up with members after meetings and events is essential to maintaining a healthy small group. When a small group leader fails to follow up with members, it sends a message that the leader is not interested in their lives or their spiritual growth. A small group leader must take the time to check in with members and offer support and encouragement when needed.
Mistake #5: Not Being Authentic A small group leader who presents a perfect image of themselves and their life can create unrealistic expectations for members. When a small group leader is not authentic about their struggles and challenges, members may feel like they cannot be honest about their own struggles. A small group leader must be willing to be vulnerable and transparent about their own life and faith journey.